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Anyone else in this situation? Posted on: 02.05.2012 by Halley Wurzer I am graduating in June and it's almost comical how up in the air my life is after that. I'm freaked out. I'm from New York, go to school in Cincinnati, and want to move to LA or Miami. I don't have any job offers because I have been to busy to apply anywhere (and just haven't put as much time into it as I should). My lease runs out at the end of July and I DON'T want to move back home. I just got an offer to DJ a big event here in the middle of july and took it simply because I have no other plans after graduation. My parents are both super supportive, but after graduation, everything is all on me. My future has never been this uncertain before.Anyways...thought I'd share. | |
| Kimberlee Bosel 10.05.2012 | A lot of good advice coming from here, just know that the world is open to you. I myself do not have a degree but work full time at a job that is easily turned into a career. I found the job during school, part time, weekend graveyard hours. It wasn't pretty but it paid my bills and still gave me a lot of time to do what I wanted. I stopped going to school gradually when they offered this to me full time with full benefits. Although I do regret not finishing, I was able to rack up over 6 years of experience before most of my friends even graduated. Now I'm finding out that the office I'm in is going to close and they want to move me around to Virginia, which I rejected because they were not paying me enough to relocate my entire life. I could go on and on about why I'm rejecting it, but I don't want to bore you; I am too feeling the pressures of not knowing what to do and the prospect of finding a new job. You just gotta stick your nose out and try. Plus, like someone else said, the possibility of moving back home should be a great incentive for you to find a job and move out again.
Originally Posted by sarasin
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| Judi Sissel 09.05.2012 |
Originally Posted by Xonetacular
Originally Posted by laneo
DJ SB- I know it doesn't seem like the best option, but if you have to move back home, it may not be that bad. During your search for your career maybe you could find a job for the time being. Doing so could possibly open up resources and a network with people. The added bonus of doing this is you could save $, enjoy a break, and travel while you have the time to do so. Once you get settled in to your career it maybe harder to just get up and go. |
| Lakiesha Perini 07.05.2012 | hey man, fellow college senior here. I know the feeling, I live with my dad in mass, go to school in NYC, and I'm getting stationed in Virginia 6 months after I graduate, I'll be there for 6 months then I go to Florida for flight School, then I move again, and again, and again. I mean yea, I know where ill be every day for the next 20 years or so, but like steady friends... when I can see family... joining churches... playing in pickup football games... who knows!! It gets really hard to hold a relationship, a steady side-job, or even have a dog. I guess the best "advice" I can give you find something you love, and if you love your job you'll never "work" a day in your life. For me, entertaining is my niche, not always DJ'ing but throwing parties in general. Biggest thing I believe is set a goal one that is really really hard to imagine accomplishing and just chip away at it,
Originally Posted by Xonetacular
In your case I'd say find the ultimate job, in either LA or FL would be the goal. not really sure where I'm going with this but your not the only one out there that sees life like this... Just kick back and enjoy the ride, everything else will come; be yourself and do what you want to do and be good at it, everything else will somehow fall into place. |
| Halley Wurzer 02.05.2012 | I am graduating in June and it's almost comical how up in the air my life is after that. I'm freaked out. I'm from New York, go to school in Cincinnati, and want to move to LA or Miami. I don't have any job offers because I have been to busy to apply anywhere (and just haven't put as much time into it as I should). My lease runs out at the end of July and I DON'T want to move back home. I just got an offer to DJ a big event here in the middle of july and took it simply because I have no other plans after graduation. My parents are both super supportive, but after graduation, everything is all on me. My future has never been this uncertain before. Anyways...thought I'd share. |
| Halley Wurzer 13.05.2012 | Lots of good advice here. Thank you everyone! |
| Len Lukawski 12.05.2012 | I have only scanned through the other replies so forgive me if I am repeating anything.... Here's what I have learned from my massive 37 years on the planet and as someone who earns a more than reasonable income. 1. NOW is the time to do what you want rather than what you need to. 2. It's much easier to follow your dream now and take a "real job" later than it is to pull yourself out of a career path later on. 3. Older people assume that younger people are dumb, arrogant and short sighted - no matter what you do, you'll never be worse off than the next young and dumb guy. 4, The pressure and expectation set by parents, teachers and career advisers is generally more geared to making them feel that they said the right thing rather being the best for you. 5. Cars, houses, money, vacations and a bumping 401k will always be worth less than your soul, anyone who tells you otherwise has already sold theirs or never had one to begin with. 6. NOW is the time to do what you want rather than what you need to. PS. I sold my soul years ago. I am buying it back a little piece at a time but the interest on it is killing me! |
| Kimberlee Bosel 10.05.2012 | A lot of good advice coming from here, just know that the world is open to you. I myself do not have a degree but work full time at a job that is easily turned into a career. I found the job during school, part time, weekend graveyard hours. It wasn't pretty but it paid my bills and still gave me a lot of time to do what I wanted. I stopped going to school gradually when they offered this to me full time with full benefits. Although I do regret not finishing, I was able to rack up over 6 years of experience before most of my friends even graduated. Now I'm finding out that the office I'm in is going to close and they want to move me around to Virginia, which I rejected because they were not paying me enough to relocate my entire life. I could go on and on about why I'm rejecting it, but I don't want to bore you; I am too feeling the pressures of not knowing what to do and the prospect of finding a new job. You just gotta stick your nose out and try. Plus, like someone else said, the possibility of moving back home should be a great incentive for you to find a job and move out again.
Originally Posted by sarasin
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| Erich Vallabhaneni 10.05.2012 | ^ i miss sleeping in hardcore . 4:30 just comes too soon |
| Demarcus Kottemann 09.05.2012 | I know where you are comming from, I was doing the job search for 14 months after I graduated. Resumes, cover letters and cold calls. What landed me the job in the end was networking with people. Allot of it has to do with who you know. Enjoy the time while you have it, if you start working 9 to 5 you might miss sleeping in, I know I did.... |
| Judi Sissel 09.05.2012 |
Originally Posted by Xonetacular
Originally Posted by laneo
DJ SB- I know it doesn't seem like the best option, but if you have to move back home, it may not be that bad. During your search for your career maybe you could find a job for the time being. Doing so could possibly open up resources and a network with people. The added bonus of doing this is you could save $, enjoy a break, and travel while you have the time to do so. Once you get settled in to your career it maybe harder to just get up and go. |
| Lakiesha Perini 09.05.2012 | haha yea actually its thought provoking and made me thing about where my life is going... i will admit i thought this was just a pep talk but its actually quite insightful, you made me a beliver!! haha |
| Erich Vallabhaneni 09.05.2012 | This is actually a pretty enlightening thread guys,im diggin seeing the life situations we are in at different points in life in different locations |
| Sabra Brauchler 10.05.2012 | I was in a similar situation. A month before I graduated from school me and my buddies started a band and after some success we kept at it. After I graduated, I lived in Baltimore for 2 years, got a job bussing tables/babacking to pay my rent and bills, and it left me with plenty of time to rehearse, play shows, etc. The entire band has since moved to Philly, and I work part time, DJ part-time, and play music part time. The goal is to make playing music and djing my full time gig, but you have to be able to pay for your day to day. Since your from NY (I'm from NY too), look into Brooklyn, or even Philly or Baltimore. These cities are established/growing, and most importantly, they are super affordable. My roommates and I live 15 minutes from Center City Philadelphia in a nice row home, 3 car garage, washer and a rehearsal space for our band and we each pay less than $500 a month. Long and short of is, do what you love to do, and figure out how to make it work for you. It's definitely possible, you just have to be flexible. I'm 25 and I'm doing a lot of cool shit my friends didn't have the balls to do. Don't settle, you gotta live. |
| Halley Wurzer 09.05.2012 | Thanks for all the replays everyone! I am in an interesting situation in that I don't want to deal with the normal corporate ladder. Its limitations and inefficiencies (I know I am generalizing here) reduce my motivation and enjoyment to the point where I would be happier moving to some island and living a simple life. I need to be at a place where I have the resources and freedom to pursue my ideas in an efficient way. My majors are Entrepreneurship and Marketing but my experience and interest is in product design. I didn't want to go to school for Mech E because I feel it reduces potential future creativity due to its ridged and obsolete structure (obviously there are exceptions). The college experience in general has greatly reduced the idea generation and pursuing of design projects that I have always done in the past. I have pretty much lived a life that has been a party here, but have focused on staying healthy. That being said, this is also a good thing because I have become a more well rounded person and found and pursued other interests. I'd say the biggest things I have leaned in the last for years have been sociological, and have helped me learn to understand and communicate with a variety of people. I feel that travel is the best form of education, and I have been lucky enough to travel to a variety of places. So here I am, with what I feel is a skill set with lots of potential, but have bad work ethic unless it is with something I am interested in. I want a lot out of life, would like to have a positive impact on the world, and want to have the freedom to pursue my interests and travel. Maybe a few of you will understand, and can relate to my opinions in this jumble I just wrote haha. |
| Lilliana Perris 09.05.2012 | DONT take an IT Support job..... Just DONT DO IT! |
| Erich Vallabhaneni 07.05.2012 | Im in the same boat as fullenglish, Im 22 with a 48 hour a week/ 35k a year job that could easily be a career that can support a family one day but I didn't get my degree and I feel like its something that I left un-done. I also want to move (i've lived here pretty much my whole life) to somewhere I can get a decent job that pays ok and maybe get a gig or two a week or something for side change. Just go with the flow and remember its you're life and anything can happen if you want it enough, just remember happiness is an important factor. |
| Lakiesha Perini 07.05.2012 | hey man, fellow college senior here. I know the feeling, I live with my dad in mass, go to school in NYC, and I'm getting stationed in Virginia 6 months after I graduate, I'll be there for 6 months then I go to Florida for flight School, then I move again, and again, and again. I mean yea, I know where ill be every day for the next 20 years or so, but like steady friends... when I can see family... joining churches... playing in pickup football games... who knows!! It gets really hard to hold a relationship, a steady side-job, or even have a dog. I guess the best "advice" I can give you find something you love, and if you love your job you'll never "work" a day in your life. For me, entertaining is my niche, not always DJ'ing but throwing parties in general. Biggest thing I believe is set a goal one that is really really hard to imagine accomplishing and just chip away at it,
Originally Posted by Xonetacular
In your case I'd say find the ultimate job, in either LA or FL would be the goal. not really sure where I'm going with this but your not the only one out there that sees life like this... Just kick back and enjoy the ride, everything else will come; be yourself and do what you want to do and be good at it, everything else will somehow fall into place. |
| Romelia Stankard 06.05.2012 | What's your degree in and what are you looking for? Be prepared to make finding a job a full time job. Leave your house every day from 9-5 even if it is to go sit at a coffee shop or the library and do job research and work on resumes and applications. Put in 40 hours a week of solid work to finding a job, that's how I found my current job where I'm at now and I also followed some of the things that have been sugested. I'm in kind of the opposite situation as you though, I have no degree and work full time at a job that could be my whole career if I wanted it to, but I need to work out going back and getting a degree and decide if I want to do this or not, so my future is also unknown and I have to make a decision before I let too much time slip by since I don't want to wake up and be 30 with no degree. |
| Sook Kitaoka 06.05.2012 | I say this with all sincerity... find any job you can get that will sustain you. That being said, your college career counselors should be able to help you get a job, but you've got to be prepared for the dirtiest fight you've ever had. You're competing with EVERYONE ELSE in the world for a job and you have to show them what makes YOU uniquely better qualified than anyone else. Most people see this as "brag about your achievements" but I say don't do that, instead, find out what each employer wants, find out about the work environment, find as much out about the job you're applying for and tailor your resume and cover letter to THAT JOB. Ask your parents, your friends, anyone you might know who has an inside line on ANY job that will get you a foot in the door and if you get the job, find a very personal way to show them how much you appreciate it. Remember, you WILL eventually have opportunities to move up in any field and most people actually don't use the degrees they went to college for in their careers because college doesn't train you for what the world wants, it's really there to give you the skills you need to survive (and thrive) anywhere. OK, all that being said. You have to survive before you thrive and when you're secure in a job, you can start looking for BETTER jobs... but you have to eat in order to make it to the next job. I have a Bachelors Degree in Computer Arts (3D Animation) and I'm doing AV Tech work because there aren't that many jobs in my field that are hiring... and wouldn't you know it, the people that ARE working in the field are the people that are VERY WELL connected. Please, do yourself a favor and do this before you burn out (like I did after college) looking for "the perfect job"... it took 10 years of my life to realize that life is full of crazy things you can't control and even if you're the the most qualified person in the world to do a job, you don't stand a chance against someone with connections... that and you'll be surprised how you can use your skills in other jobs and that maybe you really didn't know what you really loved doing when you chose your major... you might end up loving a job that is in a totally different field. (Middle-Aged Man Rant Over) |
| Halley Wurzer 02.05.2012 | Thanks for the input guys, I definitely appreciate it. |
| Tatum Ansaldo 02.05.2012 | I'm in a very similar position. In the middle of finals right now and not a clue what I'm going to do afterwards apart from get drunk a lot. Gonna have to move home in July cos I have nowhere else to go but I really don't want to. |
| Yong Aptekar 02.05.2012 | The one pearl of wisdom that I can offer you is this: Don't live to work, work to live. Work is not your life, nor should it be. Everything is open to you right now, so look into living where you want, and find a job that allows you to enjoy life. Don't take something that will tie up all of your time. Work should be there to provide you with the money to eat, sleep and play comfortably. Not to stress you out. |
| Noble Check 02.05.2012 | You aren't alone, it's quite a common predicament. And well... try to get over the idea that moving back home means you failed or anything. I know many of my friends, and even myself moved back home after graduation. I stayed there for less than a month until I could find a supportable job... and living back with your parents gives you a sense of urgency. Use the time you do have to focus or even just try new jobs. You don't have to find your life long career immediately. Try something out, you can always move on. That said, I really wanted to move across the country after graduation... but because I found a job in the same state, I'm still here. If this is one of your priorities... find a way to just do it, even if it means working at a crappy job in a new place, until you make connections and settle in a field. |
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