Reply to Firmware 1.3 download Where ?

Hey this is my first post , had the upgrade kit a year and just decided to take the plunge , but I cannot find a link to the 1.3 firmware download file.
Also the Flash toolkit is there a link to this anywhere ( i have idea what it does but never used anything like it )

I am pulling whats left of my hair out guys as I cannot even get past first Base.
Can anyone help ?