Reply to Does your partner support your DJ career?

At the start of the year I was lucky enough to hold residencies four evening s per week but unfortunately the bar I worked at got closed down.

In the last few months I've been at home making promos and studio mixes and it seems they're starting to pay off a little more now as I have a few good gigs in the pipeline as well as starting a student evening at a local bar.

However I feel I don't get the support of my other half. We've been together 3 years and she's great, apart from the fact that whenever I go out to play or network, I get the guilt trip about leaving her alone. I always invite her to my gigs but she almost always says she's doesn't want to get in the way, feel like a sore thumb, won't like the music etc etc.

Last evening I finally got her to come meet me after my warm up set. I wanted her to come for the whole 90 mins but she said she didn't want to, using the above reasons. So she turned up at 11 when I finished and we had a few drinks together while my mate played. By 12:30 she was tired so I said I'd walk her home and then come back to the bar to pack my laptop etc away. She said that's fine so I took her home and put her to bed but then she starts telling me not to go out afterwards. I tell her that I need to go to an after hours club for a bit to meet some of the DJs and promoters that my mate knows, with the hopes of getting a set in there.

Now for some reason, even though she wanted to go to bed, this was the worst thing I could ever do! She said she was sick of me being out all the time (2 of the last 4 weekends we've spent together. I generally go out on the Saturday evening if she's working he Sunday, which is usually fortevening ly) and basically said I never want to spend time with here. At the moment it's literally only every other Saturday that I go do my own thing. We spend the other 6 evening s per week together...

And I also get stick if I've been at home in the studio all day as she believes it doesn't count as work, even though I'm trying to make the tracks and mixes that I hope will get me into the local scene. If I've been in and haven't made dinner by the time she gets back all hell breaks loose. Even if as soon as she's back I offer to go to the shops and make dinner right away.

I'm just blabbing now so gonna stop for a while but I just don't know what to do. I don't feel I can compromise any more than I already do. I've gone from 16 gigs a month to just a few and it's still not good enough!

We've been together 3 years so it's not just a fling either!

I should also add that my intention is to play out 2-3 evening s per week. 2 mid week and one weekend slot. For me this what I want to do with my life and what makes me happy.

Thoughts?