Reply to Musical integrity and dealing with picky club managers

Hey all,

I am sure this conversation has been had, but after about 45 min on searching for wisdom on the DJTT community I've yet to read anything...I've talked to several larger local DJ's here that I look up too and I wanted an opinion from you all as well. (Hint: Their opinions are split)

Long story short, I'm playing at a brand new venue...It's a restaurant till dinner service is over then a bar/ultralounge after that. It's a very, very nice venue...The owner brought me in and I was told to spin Deep House/Tech house and a little progressive should the mood call for it. All good, infact hell yeah, no top 40!!!

I was playing last evening , and after playing two hours of deep house, the manager (Who is new) asked me to play daft punk..."NOW".

OK, I don't take requests, but uh you got it boss...time to get lucky....But then he wanted me to go top 40 mashups, and not 30 min later came by and asked me to play Hip Hop for a birthday party that came through...

I have a confession to make, I don't have much top 40, much less any hip hop in my library...I entertained his request, killed the room and made him happy, but it has me bothered today. I am an engineer by day and I play for fun, not really interested in making money here. Should I be prepared (and willing) to play that stuff, or should I be stern and say no to playing stuff I don't like? How do I open the conversation up with the manager and owner about not being another top 40 venue?

The purist I am, I am willing to walk way from the nice ($$$) residency on the grounds that I don't play top 40 or hip hop, is this a bad attitude to have? am I being a douche? Should I get to loading top 40 into my library?

Any wisdom would be welcome here.

Thanks